I stumbled on this community when randomly searching LJ.. My name is Alicia, I'm 18, i identify myself as bisexual.
conversation starter: does anyone else have problems with prejudice- for instance: i've had people tell me that bisexuality doesn't exist...
Hello Alicia, I'm Rebecca. Nice to meet you :)
Yes, this was very common when I was younger. As a young teen- I came out first as lesbian, then later as bi in my early years of high school- many seemed to think my sexuality was a topic up for debate. As I grew older though this became sort of a non-issue. Though people on the periphery of my life often give funny looks, or make the odd comment it usually stems from questions they are too ashamed to ask. I've found that the best thing is to use your sense of humor, and be bold with them. There are some great essays on bisexuality on the web and in books, so I often recommend those if the person would like toknow a bit more.
How do you handle those types of situations? More importantly how do you feel when someone tells you that bisexuality is just in your mind?
the people i have encountered seem to be prejudiced for two reasons. Either they don't know bi people and assume that we're all sluts who will sleep with anyone and everone, or its more "sinful" than being gay- because obviously, being attracted to both genders is only about about sex..
i am incredibly monogomous person when i am in a relationship, so the first prejudice is pretty easy to counter- if that's not enough, everyone who's done that to me is gay, so they understand feeling different from the time they were little. It was like this for me- in a few silly ways- i liked to play with and act like a boy, but i always wanted the companionship of other girls; i felt most comfortable wearing a floofy dress and playing in the mud. Another counter is that i have been bi from puberty on- i knew it from the start of sexual feelings, so i can't see myself being in a transition of any kind, as some argue- that's almost 8 years.
I've never personally had anyone come out and say "its in your head" but to me, that sounds a lot like what these gay camps are trying to do. Is being gay in your head? No, but there are people trying to make gay adolescents "whole" anyway. Why should bisexuality be any different?
I don't even know if you are still around but just in case.....nice to meet you!!!
I haven't encountered any real problems being bi. Though I just told my brother last weekend that I am dating a woman and he was very uncomfortable.
I don't really know what to add.